Category: Non-violent Communication (NVC)
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A Compelling, Compassionate, Critique of Conservative Extremism by David Frum
the [Republican] party is getting the big questions disastrously wrong [David Frum on the GOP’s Lost Sense of Reality (New York Magazine, 20 November 2011)] David Frum, former economics speechwriter for former U.S. President George W. Bush, offers a sharp critique of the Republican Party in an interview with NPR's Steve Innskeep yesterday, David Frum…
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Reflections on Reviews, Rebuttals and Respect
Having recently served as associate chair for both the CSCW 2011 and CHI 2011 Papers & Notes Committees, I've read a large number of papers, an even larger number of reviews, and a slightly smaller number of rebuttals. In participating in back-to-back committees, a few perspectives and practices that impact the process of scientific peer…
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Violent communication, emotional contagion, genocide and eliminationism
Last night, I watched a disturbing show on PBS, Worse than War, "the first major documentary to explore the phenomenon of genocide and how we can stop it". Daniel Jonah Goldhagen, narrator of the film and author of the book upon which it is based, argues that contrary to common conceptions of irrational and spontaneous…
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Be Impeccable With Your Word: Confrontation vs. Condescension and Intimidation
I’ve had a number of opportunities recently to reflect on don Miguel Ruiz‘ first agreement: be impeccable with your word. Amid public conversations at the recent Coffee Party kickoff meeting, private discussions about reviews of academic papers and proposals, and listening to an interview about the science of wisdom, I’ve gained a greater appreciation for…
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Data, Judgments, Feelings and Wants: A Path toward Clarity
I was talking with some colleagues this morning about recognizing and resolving misunderstandings and [other] conflicts. I mentioned a few different perspectives and processes that I've used, and sent along some references. I've blogged about two of them before: the four agreements and love and logic. I was surprised to discover I'd never blogged about…