Interrelativity

Category: Relationships

  • Consequential Strangers and Acquaintanceships, Online and Offline

    Consequential strangers are the people with whom we enjoy casual relationships in our neighborhoods, workplaces and third places that can be as vital to our health, wealth, wisdom and well-being as our family and closest friends (or what I like to call speed dial friends). According to a new book by Melinda Blau and Karen…

  • Giving thanks for my ‘speed dial friends’

    I am grateful for all of my circles of family and friends, offline and online, but on this day of Thanksgiving, I want to express my special appreciation for a small subset that I often call my speed dial friends: the set of my closest friends whose phone numbers I have programmed into the single-digit…

  • Twitter: a witness projection program

    Twitter has become the ultimate (or at least current favorite) tool for addressing the fundamental human need to matter, to have a witness. The increasingly popular web service "for friends, family, and co–workers to communicate and stay connected through the exchange of quick, frequent answers to one simple question: What are you doing?" is, more…

  • A New Generation of Proactive Displays

    We launched our new proactive display application at Nokia Research Center Palo Alto two weeks ago. The application – provisionally called the Context, Content and Community Collage – situates online content in a shared physical context to foster a greater sense of community, representing a convergence of the core themes of our Context, Content and…

  • Fino, Finis, Finnish: Jukka Soikkeli’s Farewell Party (and the Power of Passion)

    We celebrated Jukka Soikkeli’s 20+ years at Nokia Research Center at Cafe Fino in Palo Alto last night. Besides learning about Jukka’s penchant for Corvettes, and some of his tangible and intangible contributions to (and through) Nokia, it was noted that Jukka is a prototypical Finn: a man of few words, the wisdom of which…

  • Data, Judgments, Feelings and Wants: A Path toward Clarity

    I was talking with some colleagues this morning about recognizing and resolving misunderstandings and [other] conflicts. I mentioned a few different perspectives and processes that I've used, and sent along some references. I've blogged about two of them before: the four agreements and love and logic. I was surprised to discover I'd never blogged about…

  • Influence in Digg Nation: Democracy, Meritocracy or Aristocracy?

    There appears to be rising indignation in Digg nation over the perception that some users have undue influence in the ranking of articles posted in this popular "user driven social content website" (cf. articles at InformationWeek, Wired Blog, and Wikipedia, the last of which also notes that "diggnation" was one of the names originally considered…

  • The Dance of Leadership

    A healthy community is like a dance, with different dancers stepping forward to take the lead at different times, and others following those leads.  Even followers are leaders, as we lead ourselves along paths or sequences illuminated by those who we consciously or unconsciously agree to allow lead us.  A leader creates a safe space…

  • Hearts and Minds, Us and Them, War and Peace

    Curtis Johnson shares some insightful — and potentially inciteful — views on new ways of thinking about — and acting on — the issue of terrorism in an article entitled "Towards Effective Global Influence".  After starting off with a quote from Marine Lt. Gen. Wallace Gregson "Hearts and minds are more important than capturing and…

  • The Network Effects of Awareness, Energy, Trust and Serendipity

    The Hidden Power of Social Networks: Understanding How Work Really Gets Done in Organizations, by Rob Cross and Andrew Parker, illuminates far more than I expected about the different types of social networks that exist within and across organizations, and the way those networks impact, and are impacted by, the organizations in and through which…